Do Women Hide The Crazy Better Than Guys?
I had a message on match.com the other day from someone I had been exchanging e-mails with. She posed that question, “Do you get weird emails that make you want to cancel your account?” This led to a discussion on the difference between men and women’s presentations of themselves initially in relationships. Do women essentially hide the crazy better than guys?(Note: the return of the dating diaries is coming soon.)
Men can’t hide their major loser issues. (Well…unless the guy is a complete and utter sociopath.) If the guy is psycho, a dick, classless, or just kind of a loser you can almost tell right off the bat. (Usually they will be sending you a picture of their junk within two conversations. That is a good tell tale sign.) The reason being is that men aren’t smart enough to conceal it. They just don’t have enough foresight and strategy when it comes to this. And I think for the large part a lot of guys are just socially unaware of a lot of things when it comes to dating. If you want a guy to plot the takeover of a small country through political, social, and military means they can handle it but having them plot out a three-date strategy of not being a douche bag if they are one is impossible.
Sure maybe they clean the bathroom a bit more because they know you are coming over initially or aren’t as big of a pig but in general I think you can size men up rather quickly. Especially if you talk to them a bit or exchange e-mails a little before you initially meet.
Women on the other hand don’t let the crazy out right away. Through conversation there might be slight hints or red flags but women do a very good job of avoiding certain topics or framing something that could be damaging. It isn’t that women are intentionally trying to mislead but it is just that throughout most of their lives they have learned the importance of presentation and tact.
Here is where the problem lies with all of this. Women will date a jerk/psycho/loser because they might be attracted to a certain part of the person or frankly they just want some level of attention. They already know the guy is what he is but they just ignore it for some reason but eventually when they want out they fear leaving this dude because he will either stalk then or self-destruct. On the other hand guys just get lulled into a relationship with crazy girl because the nut job side doesn’t and when the sex starts (crazy girls are better in bed) it blinds them across the board thus keeping them in the relationship way too long.
In the end nothing good happens you either end up with a rabbit boiling on your stove or having to fake your own death and swim to safety to start your new life.
What do you think? Does this theory hold water?
I’ve gone on a 2nd date where the guy asked to borrow my car for an upcoming court appointment. Nice.
And as far as not being able to get out of crap relationships because I feel kinda bad…I am just going to whistle and walk away. La la la la la…
I agree. Men have NO IDEA how to hide their crazy, but the ladies are taught early on how to put on a facade. My sister had a guy ask her after a two weeks of casual dating (and right after they’d had sex) if he could borrow $20 to help get him through the week. NICE.
i know a lot of girls who let the crazy out early…just like men..but i do think women are better at hiding it then men
Women who “let the crazy out early” aren’t letting ALL the crazy out, just the more palatable/less scary crazy stuff. Basically, if she has issues on the first date, you’ve only scratched the damn surface of Planet Crazy.
women are much better then guys when it comes to hiding our crazy side. lorena bobbitt is such a good example.
Women definitely hide it better than the menfolk. I think it’s because men don’t really care to try.
I like to think I’m the same caliber of crazy from beginning to end, but I’m sure all women think want to that. :]
Women hide our crazy behind our boobs. It’s there and easy to spot, it’s just, well….BOOBS.
Yep. Boobs. They hide so much!
Yeah, we can’t see past the boobs. Even if you hid the crazy on your face, we’d probably still be too busy looking (or thinking) about the boobs to notice it.
Most men try to be themselves and like Bobby said, if you’re a douche there’s no hiding it.
YES women definitely hide thier crazy much better than guys. and its soo true, if a girl shows crazy right away, that is definitely only the surface of it, ha ha. No joke, I’ve actually had to coach some girlfriends on how to hide their crazy until they have hooked the guy to a point where he might actually accept it. I’m a firm believer that all females are crazy, its just who is better at hiding it ;O)
Couldnt have said it better myself. All women are crazy , dearies
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Oh hands down… I dont even let em see me have more than three drinks until we’re atleast a month in! lol
I think if a man actually is clinically / psychologically crazy (mentally hilarious) then he would be likely to hide things about himself. Generally however, seems like most guys aren’t “crazy” as much as they are “dumb” when it comes to dating.
I think your theory holds true.
I sent you pictures of my junk the very first time I emailed you. What are you trying to say?
I have a profile out there too, not on match.com, and the first line, in a chat!, from one guy was “If I send you a pic of my junk, I get to see yours”. Uh? Hi? Not.
I think the theory holds that men just don’t know how to hide it. Ladies have learned to hide it til they get what they want. No matter to what degree or what it is they want. I’m sure we’ve all heard a story that has the phrase “She’s not the woman I married”. Darn tootin’ Skippy! She hid it well!
As much as women attempt to hide their crazy, some of us (like me, during “The Single Years”) had antennas that seemed to find it anyway. Led to many wonderful nights–and many terrifying days afterward. [shudder]
I think its easier to spot man crazy because there are very few brands of man crazy… psycho, stalker, overpossessive and vastly inappropriate molester types. Woman crazy however has many different forms and afflictions and ranges in too many cats crazy to boil your bunny crazy and several hundred thousand varieties in between. So its harder to know when you’re dealing with a brand of crazy you may not have seen before…
yes! I’ve been tricked by this! There needs to be some sort of cataloging of crazy women syndromes.
Definitely. I went out with a psycho for 6 months before I had to take the fake my own death route. She seemed nice to begin with, a few loose screws, but good in bed. The n I realised she was an absolute nutcase.
Girls do this to each other too. So many times I’ve made friends with girls who turn out to be rather damaging and crazy…