I know a lot of blogs have been written on this site about women. Sometimes women have been the brunt of jokes, sometimes they have been the victors over pigheaded men, and sometimes they have just been flat out confusing. In the end I am a big supporter of women so that is why I feel it is my duty to speak about an issue that has come up twice this week, turkey baster babies.
The first story is the one we all know about Nadya Suleman who had 8 children via in vitro fertilization. I can’t even rationally talk about this story because there are so many things that are morally and ethically wrong with it. Basically I will sum up my thoughts with the idea that if you are on public assistance and half of the six kids you already have are specials needs you probably shouldn’t be allowed to pay for a really costly procedure intended to give you MORE kids. The fact that your gene pool isn’t exactly strong and your financially can’t afford it should be a tell tale sign that it is time to shut down the baby making factory. (Oh if you want to donate to help her out she setup a website… ugh.)
I look at it this way. If I say I am going to bake you a couple of dozen cookies for you to take to work and I screw up half of the first dozen then ask you to go buy the ingredients to have me make more would you do it? Probably not, you would probably tell me that you wouldn’t want to waste the money. I guess what I am trying to say is… I have no idea, that we shouldn’t let her cook or something.
Personally though this isn’t the turkey baster story that was the most annoying to me this week.
My friend sent me an article from last March’s The Atlantic where Lori Gottlieb states that when a female reaches a certain age they should settle. (This has been written about ad nauseum but I didn’t see it until now.) At some point just having someone that intellectually stimulates you, has a sense of humor, and is kind to you is the way to go instead of holding out for true love. The thing is the reason why she is still single is right in the first paragraph:
My friend and I, who, in fits of self-empowerment, had conceived our babies with donor sperm because we hadn’t met Mr. Right yet, surveyed the idyllic scene.
To the author she looks at having a test tube baby as being self empowered. She couldn’t find the right guy and she pulled up her bootstraps and did what it took to get her what she wanted. On the flip side though to any guy that reads that we see a selfish, controlling, and demanding person that would be miserable to live with for the rest of our natural lives. All I can think about when I read this article is that Tracy Flick wrote an article. No guy wants to marry Tracy Flick.
Tracy Flick is the type of person that would tell her significant other how to dress. She would plan out what they were doing together for months in advance. Flick doesn’t have a sense of humor, a mindless ambition, and is completely lacking any self-awareness. Who wants to live with that?
The author goes on stating:
After all, wouldn’t it have been wiser to settle for a higher caliber of “not Mr. Right” while my marital value was at its peak?
Did she ever think that maybe she created standards that were out of whack for herself?
Settling for a person because they fit into your life’s plan is horrific. I can’t imagine living my life with the goal of simply being content because it allows me to achieve my other goals of having a family and a kid. What a miserable existence. To make matters worse when you are thinking about this idea because your personality, world view, and existence made compatibility impossible there might be an issue.
What is the lesson in all this? Women if you are without a man or yearning for a child consider getting a puppy.
There is enough to bitch about in here that I am not even going to pose a question.
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