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Following the Plan

By: Bobby Finstock on 02/21/07 @ 4:35 pm

Sorry for a second blog today, I hate to post multiple times in a day but something happened that just got me thinking. Yeah this is a semi serious Kevin blog…

I have made it a policy not to blog about my personal life at all. I will tell you stories from my life but I won’t let you in on the ebbs and flows of my relationships or tell you when my last bowel movement was. Personally I think those types of blogs make for a rather boring read and I look at myself as being a diversion from your crappy jobs, your good jobs, your daily routine, or masturbation material.

Well I am going to break that a tad for a second and talk about a couple of things.

First of all a random person was giving me shit the other day about being 29 and in college. Granted I would love to be in career mode in a job that I love but in my first go around in school I was going to teach. I started student teaching and just knew it wasn’t for me. (That is another funny blog for another day.) I left school and eventually landed a career type job in the computer industry as a network sales consultant. The job paid well, it was okay, but I really didn’t like it and knew that it wasn’t for me. So I ended up out in California eventually finishing up school. Finally I have some sort of direction of what I want to do and how I want to do it. At times I kind of have regretted not just sticking out school and just getting it behind me, not following the typical “plan”.

Now with that said it got me thinking about where I am “supposed” to be. I talked to my friend the other day who is getting married in May and he was talking about that this girl just seemed like a fit and it was the right thing to do. It was “time for him to settle down” and she had a lot of the things he was looking for. Hardly romantic, hardly convincing, hardly the way I looked at getting married would be.

After that conversation it struck me. All of my friends that went to school, graduated in 4-5 years, and settled down shortly there after are miserable except for one. So out of a group of five people that followed the typical plan only one is happy, those aren’t odds that I like.

Because I didn’t do the same thing they did I have been able to do a lot of different things and pursue some dragons that might turn into windmills but at least I am having the ability to take a shot at it. I was able to travel, I was able to try out different things, and I was able to see what I wanted to do with my life… Something I think they might be regretting.

So I ask you guys this:

1) Did you follow “the plan” and are you happy, or did you follow it and regret it?

2) If you didn’t follow “the plan”are you happy that you didn’t or regret that you didn’t?

okay I am off to class for the next few hours I want to see what you have to say I will be back in between my afternoon and night classes to jump back in the discussion.

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Bobby Finstock

Finstock is founder of Pointlessbanter.net. He is known for his encyclopedia like knowledge on the life and times of Scott Baio. In the future he hopes to write again under his own name in order to impress the ladies and build his celebrity to the levels of other failed internet writers.

5 Responses to “Following the Plan”

  1. randi says:

    Thanks for a blog topic. I had writer’s block this morning.

  2. Jessica says:

    I am one who followed the plan and I can say I am happy. Had some bumps in the plan but overall things worked out. But life is different for everyone. I was the first to get married out of my friends and have been happily for 7 1/2 years. This is not the norm, but then again what is the norm? Do what makes you feel alive and make sure you enjoy it along the way. Age is irrevalant when you think about finding what makes you happy…if you do it at 30 then your are ahead of the game…many never find happiness. As far as your friend getting married…all I have to say is hopefully he will have girls at his wedding going commando!!! :-)

  3. Kevin says:

    His wedding better be out of control dammit

  4. Suzie says:

    Ha… This really hit a cord with me. Im 23 and Im about to go travelling to America and Canada for 2 years.

    This will be my second trip away – orginally I finished uni and then travlled for a few months and then returned home with the intention of shooting off again after a few months.

    Pressures from my parents and the general way my friends where getting on with their lives meant I gave up on the travelling dream and decided to ’settle down’earlier then intended. Two jobs that I have hated later and Im still living with my rents and have got no where in my career and the settling down is now delayed by at leaast another 2 years as I fulfill my travelling dreams.

    I dont regret the jobs and the time spent in between but I wish I had stuck to my guns and at least tried to get the traveling out of my systems earlier. I do wonder what position I am going to be in when I get back in 2 years… exactly where I am now while my friends are shacked up and moving up their careers.

    In all honesty if I didnt do the travelling I would regret that more, plus Im not my friends so why do I need to measure what I do against what they are doing!!

    Hmmm sorry for the boring long msg…. just been running thru my brain alot lately… nice to get it down on ‘paper’

  5. Quixotic says:

    I graduated from HS at 17 (could’ve graduated earlier, but family thought I should stick it out so I wouldn’t “miss” the “wonder” of my teen years) and promptly enrolled in the local community college. At the time I was pissed and ashamed because all of my friends were going to “real college” and I wasn’t. Of course, looking back at it, I’m glad I did it that way because I a) avoided the freshman 15, b) didn’t drink/fail my first two years, and c) learned a lot more because my classes were smaller and had more hands on teaching.

    Then I made the colossal mistake of moving in with my then boyfriend once I did transfer to the state university. I don’t know how I managed to survive with decent grades, but I did. And then dropped out the next semester because I was so miserable and went on a 3.5 yr traveling spree through the western half of the US and different parts of Europe while taking random classes online or in whatever community college closest to where I was staying.

    I came back in 2005, buckled down, and graduated in May of 2006 at the ripe age of 25. Whereas all of my friends were working on their Masters or Ph.ds, I had a lowly bachelor’s, but a raft of experiences they did not.

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