Comments on: Are all of our relationships doomed to fail because of our upbringing? http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/ Once You Read It You Can't Unread It Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:23:23 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: Lisa http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/comment-page-1/#comment-35722 Lisa Wed, 18 Mar 2009 02:28:22 +0000 http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/#comment-35722 Who knows. My ex left me 5 months ago after a 10 year relationship. He just left (after withdrawing, then sleeping on the couch), and is now seeing someone new. I suggested counselling, he refused. But really, the relationship was empty for a long time because he didn't know what he wanted, and any intimacy that was there died. It was hard to get a commitment from him about whether he was going to be home for dinner, let alone marriage and children. And yes, I should have seen the signs 5 years ago! But I didn't. Young love hey. I do still love him and miss him and thought we were worth trying for, but I do believe we both need to grow. He believes this is the right path and won't say 100% that we won't ever be together again, only that he doesn't intend for it to happen...well that says 100% to me! I don't think we will ever be together again, but that's life. Who knows. My ex left me 5 months ago after a 10 year relationship. He just left (after withdrawing, then sleeping on the couch), and is now seeing someone new. I suggested counselling, he refused. But really, the relationship was empty for a long time because he didn’t know what he wanted, and any intimacy that was there died. It was hard to get a commitment from him about whether he was going to be home for dinner, let alone marriage and children. And yes, I should have seen the signs 5 years ago! But I didn’t. Young love hey. I do still love him and miss him and thought we were worth trying for, but I do believe we both need to grow. He believes this is the right path and won’t say 100% that we won’t ever be together again, only that he doesn’t intend for it to happen…well that says 100% to me! I don’t think we will ever be together again, but that’s life.

]]> By: Cesar http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/comment-page-1/#comment-19637 Cesar Wed, 21 May 2008 05:32:33 +0000 http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/#comment-19637 I don't think our generation suffers because of issue of commitment (I am a 29 year old but technologically savvy in Argentina so that puts me between Gen X and the dreaded Gen Y). I think the main points are two, expectations and information. The generations before us have certain info about the system that led them to believe in a future. We have seen that future twarted and even if the propaganda machine is stronger than ever, checking alternative sources is easier than ever. In a generation with more divorces than marriages that last, what did you expected. For the system to work people have to believe in it and sadly we have too much info to do so. I don’t think our generation suffers because of issue of commitment (I am a 29 year old but technologically savvy in Argentina so that puts me between Gen X and the dreaded Gen Y).

I think the main points are two, expectations and information. The generations before us have certain info about the system that led them to believe in a future. We have seen that future twarted and even if the propaganda machine is stronger than ever, checking alternative sources is easier than ever.

In a generation with more divorces than marriages that last, what did you expected. For the system to work people have to believe in it and sadly we have too much info to do so.

]]> By: <![CDATA[Kevin]]> http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/comment-page-1/#comment-14072 Tue, 16 Jan 2007 16:49:51 +0000 http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/#comment-14072 [quote comment="1657"]I always chalked it up to the removal of the social stigma attached with a divorce/ break up. No longer who two people who hate each other be forced to stay together because breaking up would be social leprosy not seen since the kids on the short bus in grade school. We just move on to gmake someone else miserable :D[/quote] There are ALWAYS other people that can be made miserable right? [quote comment="1657"]I always chalked it up to the removal of the social stigma attached with a divorce/ break up. No longer who two people who hate each other be forced to stay together because breaking up would be social leprosy not seen since the kids on the short bus in grade school.

We just move on to gmake someone else miserable :D [/quote]

There are ALWAYS other people that can be made miserable right?

]]> By: <![CDATA[ellamichelle]]> http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/comment-page-1/#comment-14071 Mon, 15 Jan 2007 17:42:30 +0000 http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/#comment-14071 I always chalked it up to the removal of the social stigma attached with a divorce/ break up. No longer who two people who hate each other be forced to stay together because breaking up would be social leprosy not seen since the kids on the short bus in grade school. We just move on to gmake someone else miserable :D I always chalked it up to the removal of the social stigma attached with a divorce/ break up. No longer who two people who hate each other be forced to stay together because breaking up would be social leprosy not seen since the kids on the short bus in grade school.

We just move on to gmake someone else miserable :D

]]> By: <![CDATA[Kevin]]> http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/comment-page-1/#comment-14070 Sat, 13 Jan 2007 18:50:48 +0000 http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/#comment-14070 The fart jokes will be back on Tuesday... Yeah working sucks why bother? The fart jokes will be back on Tuesday…

Yeah working sucks why bother?

]]> By: <![CDATA[Tori]]> http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/comment-page-1/#comment-14069 Fri, 12 Jan 2007 16:35:23 +0000 http://pointlessbanter.net/2007/01/12/are-all-of-our-relationships-doomed-to-fail-because-of-our-upbringing/#comment-14069 Nobody likes serious, Kevin. Or serious Kevin. Actually I agree. I'm not a big fan at working at relationships. But that might be because I should have been born with a penis. I think talking about feelings is one of the most boring things ever. I'd rather break up than deal with that shit. I don't know if I can blame society for that, but it is possible that my generation was raised to be lazy and non-committal. I like that idea better than the idea that it's just <i>me</i> that's lazy and non-committal. Now bring back the fart jokes. Nobody likes serious, Kevin. Or serious Kevin.

Actually I agree. I’m not a big fan at working at relationships. But that might be because I should have been born with a penis. I think talking about feelings is one of the most boring things ever. I’d rather break up than deal with that shit. I don’t know if I can blame society for that, but it is possible that my generation was raised to be lazy and non-committal. I like that idea better than the idea that it’s just me that’s lazy and non-committal.

Now bring back the fart jokes.

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